The FLIPSTERS’ Moms are the greatest ever and passed along the greatest advice to each of us.
My Mom, who died six years ago (still hurts like yesterday), always gave great advice. ALWAYS. But equally important to what she said was how she lived her life. That example was the best advice of all.
Rochelle Sager 1941-2011
My Mother taught me the joys of surprising people with thoughtful gifts, or revealing the thoughtful gift in a surprising way.
When I was in grade five, my Mom gave me a piece of paper with the Hangman game on it. I was only allowed to guess one letter a day, but at the end I was going to get a huge surprise. I guessed each day and wracked my brain trying to solve it. Eventually I figured out that it said “WE ARE GOING TO SEE _ _ _ _ _ _ _ !” but needed a few more days to figure out the last word.
Eventually, I figured it out. It said WE ARE GOING TO SEE POLKAROO! Polkaroo? We’re going to see Polkaroo? I’m in grade five, why the hell would I want to see Polkaroo? I brought the piece of paper out to my Mum and very carefully said “We are going to see Polkaroo?”
She burst out laughing, went into her room, brought out concerts tickets and handed them to me. The tickets were actually for Aerosmith, who is our favorite band. Needless to say, I was both excited and relieved.
Another time my Mom told me to get the in the car. We were going to a meeting with my principal because I need to go to summer school. I was pretty upset. But then she pulled into the movie theatre and we went to see Titanic. Again, exciting and confusing. Love you Mommy!
My Mom always passes along advice through her actions. One time I was going through a particularly tough break-up and had talked to my Mom about it. She naturally comforted me and made me feel better. That night I was at a friend’s house, obviously complaining about that dumb boy, and came across a note in my purse that simply read “I’m giving you a great big hug. Love, Mom.” I still have that note to this day. My Mother’s greatest advice was even when you can’t be with someone, always let them know you’re there for them.
My Mum, Mena D’Lima, gave the best advice, requested or not. I sadly lost her two years ago but I still hear her voice telling me to stay positive (she was the most positive person I knew), or to call my sister and brother. But the best advice she ever gave me was how to cook Basmati rice.
For two cups of cooked rice use: one cup of rinsed Basmati rice, two cups of boiled water and a dash or two of salt. In a medium sauce pan heat a tsp of olive oil and fry the rinsed rice on a low heat. Boil the water in a kettle and once boiled add to the pot with the salt. Give it one quick stir (she yelled at me once for stirring too much) and turn up the heat to medium-high. Let it cook until the water is almost gone and holes appear at the top of the rice. Then remove from the heat and cover. The steam will finish cooking the rice. I usually leave it for at least 5 minutes or until I’m ready to serve and then fluff it up with a fork. It’s perfect every time. Thanks Mum. Miss you.
I’m sure we all think this, but my Mom is the best. She’s hilarious, creative and cares so much about others. She taught me not to take life too seriously, but to stand up for myself nonetheless. She made sure my siblings and I always knew we were loved and supported in whatever we wanted to do in life. Our family’s officially unofficial anthem is Twisted Sister’s We’re Not Going to Take It – it describes us well from drive to stubbornness – and my Mom is the first to crank the volume when it comes on. Phone calls with her are never shorter than half an hour because time doesn’t seem to count when you’re talking to your best friend. I don’t really know what else to say. I think she’s pretty great.
My Mum always says that she doesn’t know how I came out to be such a good kid. She frequently comes to me for my observations but doesn’t understand that I clearly had to get it from somewhere. So, as much as I may give her good advice, it likely came from her to begin with. Her best advice to me is to be empathetic because the ability to see things for what they are, and not to feel the need to change things is admirable. She says she sees this in me (which is flattering, of course) but I’m sure I wouldn’t be this way if it weren’t for her love and empathy my whole life.